Is there a tactful way to ask for money as a wedding gift? The question arises, how to ask for money as a wedding gift without sounding tacky?

There is a straightforward and brutal way as a P.S. note along with the wedding card itself. But this is not done. Firstly you are assuming that you are going to get a gift and secondly you are asking for money? How odd and awkward would that be? This is absolutely in poor taste. It seems as if you are trying to wrangle out money to pay towards your wedding expenses. In many cultures e.g. in Japanese or Hindu or Chinese money is an accepted form of gift giving but not in Western culture.

There are times in life when one is already having a well settled home, as nowadays people are getting married when they are older and do not need any household or other gifts for their wedding. At such times you can ask your family or your parents to subtly hint to guests that money would be their preference. But make sure to tell them that this money is towards say your honeymoon, as people do not like to fund your wedding expenses.

A wedding is a time when two people are coming together and are pledging to live a life of love and togetherness forever and for that they are inviting you to be present at this auspicious and joyous ceremony. This is an occasion worthy of respect and respect is the soul of etiquette. If asked politely, with sensitivity and diplomacy asking for money could also be acceptable.